It’s easy to forget, once you’ve been having sex for a while, just how much room there is for variation. There are infinite different ways to touch someone, or to be touched. You can mix up the pressure, the speed, the direction, the rhythm, the texture… and the temperature.
While most of us like the touch we receive to roughly match our body temperature, there’s something to be said for an occasional foray into hotter or colder territory. It can be a fun surprise, an intriguing challenge, and an exciting novelty. Here are some ideas for livening up your sex toys with temperature play…
Make a realistic dildo feel even more realistic. Many people who own realistic dildos choose that type of toy less because of how they feel and more because of the fantasies they enable. Whether you’re picturing a partner, an ex, a favorite celebrity crush, or the hot guy who works at your local café, it can be fun to use a distinctly dicklike dildo while imagining the person it could be attached to. Stick your toy in a bowl of warm water for a few minutes before you plan on using it, and it’ll feel just as hot as if there were actually blood pumping through it.
Take your fantasy to the next level. Remember when Twilight swept the nation and millions of women suddenly wished they were banging a vampire? Temperature play probably peaked in popularity at that time, because Edward Cullen and his ilk have ice-cold skin – and, presumably, ice-cold genitals. Put a toy in some cold water for a few minutes before using it, or just choose a naturally-cold glass or steel toy, to give yourself a chilly thrill. If vampires aren’t your thing, there are other fantasies you could bring to life with a cold toy: a medical scenario involving a chilled speculum, for example, or the probing fingers of an icy extraterrestrial. Your imagination is your only limitation!
Combine temperature with kink. When someone is blindfolded and restrained, they’re even more sensitive to changes in temperature than they’d normally be. Provided they’ve consented to surprises in that state, you can do lots of fun things: roll a cold glass dildo all the way down their spine before sliding it inside them, say, or heat up some nipple clamps prior to affixing them to your darling’s chest. You’re sure to have them shivering, and not just from the drastic temperatures…!
As with any sexual activity, do your research and stay as safe as you can. Sexually sensitive areas are easily injured, so test all hot or cold toys on your skin before putting them on someone else’s. Don’t put toys in the freezer or in boiling water to change their temperature – regular warm or cold water will work just fine, and won’t lead to you or your partner getting hurt.